Originally posted May, 2015. Updated December, 2018. I get lots of feedback from people when we get asked the question..."Will you adopt more?" I usually say "I have no idea." Because that is the truth. That seems to strike people as odd. Because we have lots of kids. People assume we can't handle more. Or that we... Continue Reading →


As a mom... Sometimes, I am wrong. Sometimes, I am afraid. Many times, I don't know what I am doing. There is just so much uncharted territory. Parenting children with special needs has proven especially heart-wrenching. It would be so easy to excuse behaviors. But, I cannot. I will not. This week has been hard. We... Continue Reading →

waiting every Sunday.

Today is Orphan Sunday.I will spend today being generally grateful and heartbroken.Grateful for all the preciousness in our house.Heartbroken for all of the little lives without a family.In honor of today, please take a minute to view/read about children still waiting.Domestic. There are thousands of foster children in the U.S. that need a family.You can view... Continue Reading →

it’s complicated.

Right now, in my state, there is a disaster of a social services system.There is good ol' boy politics at play.There is red tape.Complicated bureaucracy at its worst.There is insufficient accountability for what is done and not done that directly affects one of our most unprotected group of humans.Foster Children.The South Carolina political world has... Continue Reading →

Pictures and Perspective.

I love pictures.I love to capture life's little split-second moments that leave my mind so quickly.I need evidence on days that are tough that they aren't always that way.I need reminders of where we were and hope for where we are going.So, yesterday I charged the camera.And started taking pictures...I did some practice while Adam... Continue Reading →

mr. dawkins and definitions.

This week on Twitter InYourFaceNewYorker said:"I honestly don't know what I would do if I were pregnant with a kid with Down Syndrome. Real ethical dilemma."And Richard Dawkins replied with this:"Abort it and try again. It would be immoral to bring it into the world if you have the choice."10:53 AM - 20 Aug 2014And then... Continue Reading →

Adam Update.

Adam is ON THE CHARTS FOR HIS AGE GROUP!And the whole family did a happy dance.He was in the 2nd percentile for weight at our last check-up.Yes, that is small...but who cares!?ON the chart is a BIG deal!Adam is learning by leaps and bounds.He can sign...please, thank you, food, more, and cracker.He babbles but doesn't... Continue Reading →

Asher update.

He has gone from a Ukrainian hospital....To a Ukrainian orphanage...Alone.With no family.No Mama.No Daddy.No brothers or sisters...Unwilling to make eye contact.Unsure of how to play.Unaware of people around him...Living in an orphanage.Destined to a life in an asylum because he has an extra chromosome.And now...This teeny boy has a best friend in our house.TC.TC and... Continue Reading →


I met Adam in the doctor's office at the orphanage in Kharkov, Ukraine.He was our "plus one."Our last minute addition.I have had lots of questions about how the "Hey Nigel, I think I'll bring home two boys" conversation went. How do you ask your husband at the last minute if two boys are acceptable? I... Continue Reading →


Well, friends...My bathroom smells perpetually of poop. One of our teeny boys (ahem, Asher)  uses bath time to evacuate his intestines. I use post-bath-time trying to convince Nigel that I am too dainty to clean poop from a tub...it works. Some of the time.Sweet Asher.Our first face-to-face meeting was February 8th.I knew very little about... Continue Reading →

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